It's Okay To Be A Nice Guy

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It's Okay To Be A Nice Guy

Encourager-In-Chief: September 15th, 2021

The fine art of finishing first.

When I was in my 20s, I went to a lot of concerts in New York where I grew up. I had another friend named Chris who also liked to go to concerts. Chris used to drive me crazy because if I missed getting tickets to a “sold out” concert that Chris knew about, he wouldn’t tell me about it. When I asked him why he didn’t say anything, he’d just say, “Because I didn’t want to go.” I would ask him why he didn’t let me know in case I wanted to go, he just didn’t have an answer for that.

One night, Chris, my brother, and another friend all went into New York City to go to a concert. Earlier that day, Chris had taken a college final and went out for drinks with some of his classmates. Like me, Chris did not drink very often and was not used to it. By the time we got to the concert hall in New York City, he was as sick as a dog. My brother and my other friend went inside. I stayed outside with Chris, trying to figure out what to do. He told me to go into the concert and that he was going to just sleep in the backseat of my car until it was over. I told him that we would come out as soon as it was over, and I would get him back home. And then he said something to me that I didn’t expect. He said, “Thanks, Dave. You’re my best friend.”

I couldn’t believe he said that. He certainly wasn’t my best friend. In fact, there were times when I couldn’t stand him — and I certainly wouldn’t have treated my best friend the way Chris treated me. But I thought an awful lot about that incident over the years. What if I was Chris’s best friend? I don’t think he had a lot of them. Maybe I was and I didn’t know it. It made me realize just how important it is to have compassion for other people because they may not have anybody else who cares about them at all.

If you get teased or criticized for being “too nice,” consider the alternative. Would you rather be considered “too mean?” If people think of you as nice, take it as a compliment because it is. You could do a whole lot worse than having people think of you as thoughtful and considerate to others.

Let me hear from you.

Sometimes you have to be kind to others, not because they are nice, but because you are.
- Anonymous

This excerpt is taken from my Nice Guys Finish First! seminar. I encourage you to register for my exclusive live Zoom seminar presentation of Nice Guys Finish First! on Thursday, October 7, 2021, from 9 AM to 12 noon eastern standard time.

Nice Guys Finish First!


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