Are You A Person Of Influence?

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Are You A Person Of Influence?

Encourager-In-Chief: March 3rd, 2021

How can you tell?

I was recently talking with a coaching prospect who wanted to speak with me through a Zoom video conference. I said I’d be happy to do so and I asked her to send me her Zoom link. When I got on the conference call, one of the other participants asked me how I can be a coach without having a Zoom account. I explained that one of my clients had a great deal that included many other options and offered it to me to broadcast all of my seminars in exchange for being a seminar sponsor.

In addition, the client offered me free Zoom time to practice and record my seminars for inclusion in my Online University.

Not long ago, I found a VHS tape containing a how-to instructional bass fishing video which was shot in 1990. I wasn’t sure how to get it digitized so I asked someone affiliated with my television series. He said he could do it and that he would not charge me for the service.

This is not a new occurrence. In the 1980s, when I was running my first business, Dave Romeo Bass Tournaments, one of my volunteer supervisors offered to build a 15-foot-high banner scaffold to display the name of my business and all of my national sponsors for free.

Another one of my volunteer fishing tournament supervisors proudly told me how he had offered to buy his fiancée five brand-new dresses if she would allow him to supervise my five fishing tournaments that particular summer.

For 40 years, I’ve tried to figure out why people have continuously gone out of their way to help me — in many cases when they wanted nothing in return, were not even asked, and looked forward to helping me. I asked one of my fishing buddies who help me run my fishing tournaments for 10 years that question. He said, “I think we just did it because we liked you.”

Is that possible? Is that the answer I’ve been searching for, for the past 40 years? Does likability count? I have to believe that it does. I believe people feel good about helping you when they know you appreciate it. I also believe that going out of your way to make sure people feel important and special draws them to you. And the key to being a person of influence is by making sure other people feel better about themselves than they do about him.

We are always influencing others in either positive or negative ways. If you continuously go out of your way to be a positive influence in other people’s lives, you will be amazed and humbled by their response to you.

Let me hear from you.

I have always depended on the kindness of strangers.
- Blanche Dubois, A Streetcar Named Desire

This excerpt is taken from my The Fine Art of Influence and Persuasion seminar. I encourage you to register for this great Zoom presentation event on Thursday, March 25, 2021 from 9 am to 12 noon Eastern Standard Time.

The Fine Art Of Influence And Persuasion


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