Don’t Mistake a Speed Bump for a Brick Wall

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Don’t Mistake a Speed Bump for a Brick Wall

Encourager-In-Chief: February 17th, 2016

Keep challenges in their proper perspective.

One of my closest clients and friends just mentioned to me that she was going into a performance review with the owner of her company. I could tell by the sound of her voice that she was approaching the meeting with great trepidation—and with good cause. In a previous meeting with the same individual, he changed her job description and reneged on many of the conditions for hire which were agreed to in writing prior to the start of her employment. In other words, the owner had demonstrated already that he was not congruent and his words did not match his actions.

I reminded my client that in our previous conversations, she had already decided that she would be moving on. Therefore, I reassured her that no matter what he said to her, it would not have long term consequences. I encouraged her to see any negative comments or requirements as if she was going over a speed bump, rather than slamming into a brick wall.

You could hear the wave of relief wash over her. After I said this, she asked me to please make sure I wrote down in one of my blogs to remind others to keep their anticipated challenges in perspective.

No doubt, you and I will face our share of setbacks, disappointments, and adversities from time to time. There is no need to be defeated by them. Ask yourself, “Will what happened today matter five years from today?” and “If someone asked me three months from today, ‘What I was most worried about today', would I even be able to recall this present concern?”

We tend to allow fear to paralyze us and make more of a perceived problem then it deserves. Even if you’ve experienced this same situation in the past, it doesn’t mean a similar situation will be as traumatic in the future. You will not be as unprepared as you are the first time. You gained experience and you know you survived it. I challenge you to also use this situation to grow in your faith. Remember, faith is like a muscle; the more you use it, the stronger it grows.

Faith is the antidote for fear.
- Russell M. Nelson

This excerpt is taken from my Stress Free Success seminar.

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